With Your Shield or On It
Anti-Semitism is on the rise. The series of attacks and incidents taking place almost daily over the last several months have been a surprising wake up call for folks who […]
Two steps forward
Much remains the same since I wrote this post back in 2014, and some are actually worse. One thing that is better (and worse) is a new Tamir Rice Safety […]
Mea Culpa
Almost daily I tell folks in my workshops and discussions that it’s okay to make mistakes. When we talk about topics like race, gender, sexuality and other social categories, it’s […]
Identity Politics
Way back in 1992 it was considered deviant to have a tattoo. People with tattoos fell into categories like punk, artist, biker and the formerly incarcerated. This meant that I […]
First Days
When my daughter was younger, like many parents, we marked important days with a photo. First day of school for every grade, first rock concert, plays, awards and music performances. […]
Invitation to Discomfort
For the first time since the slaughter of the children at Sandy Hook Elementary School in 2012, hearing news made me cry. Make no mistake there has been a nonstop […]
Carrot and Stick
I don’t know about you but I seem to have an almost magical ability to catalog every moment in my life where I fell short. All those times I was […]
Risk Management
I’m updating my website with the help of a super talented, visually oriented friend. An unexpected response to the necessary questions like “who is your audience?”, and “what do you […]
A Trip around the Sun
There are some milestones in life where there is an expectation that we engage in a little self-reflection. Big moments like the birth of a child, or the death of […]
Blindspot
Watching the students who survived the school shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School become activists has both been beautiful and heartening. Seeing their grief and outrage evolve into a […]
What It Means to Love
Today is my 20th wedding anniversary. Mr. Man and I are apart this year because he’s attending a leadership program at Harvard Business School (yay!) and I’m preparing our house & […]
What We Remember
A friend I met when I was 12 is now in critical condition in the ICU. A friendship that started in middle school covers a lot of history. Successes and […]
Hate speech is protected speech
It seems like every day now we see another example of people protesting and shutting down speakers when they don’t agree with their message. On campuses and other public venues, […]
Chopping Brush
A post on the Facebook group Pantsuit Nation made me cry this morning. It was by a young woman of color working as a Staff Assistant in the U.S. Congress […]
Sleeping Together
“What would you say if I asked to have my boyfriend sleep over?” My daughter and her friend asked for my reaction because the friend had just convinced her parents […]
