Burning Down the House
While I was facilitating a discussion about race this week it came up that some people “didn’t want to get into it” because black people are “always so angry.” There’s […]
Category Archives: Philosophical
Talking About Race
Given their druthers race is not usually the go to conversation topic for most people. It’s not hard to understand really, when you think about the ever present fear of […]
Paper Cuts
One of the most painful things I watch my clients experience is not losing a job to a more qualified candidate its discovering that they were the “paper candidate.” Sometimes […]
Why We Still Need Women’s History Month
As Women’s History month drifts to a close I feel like we are running in place with once step forward, two steps back on improving gender equity. And don’t get […]
Story Weaving
This morning, I heard someone say “women hold up half the sky”, and I thought, “I would be happy if most people just held up their half of the conversation.” […]
7 Stages of Winter
February 26, 2015 and I have completed all 7 stages of winter in Cleveland. I’m done. See you next year. The 7 Stages of Winter in Cleveland 1. Shock and […]
Cowardly
I asked my daughter what she might say to help a friend have the courage to do something new even though they were scared. After clarifying that the scary thing […]
10 Things I Learned in 2014
I recently saw a picture of Cinderella’s slipper with the caption “If Cinderella went back to pick up her shoe she wouldn’t have become a princess.” Whatever your feelings about […]
“Tell us what you really think”
There are lots of ways to shut down women when they are speaking. For me the one that stings the most – even more than being called bossy, intimidating, strident […]
Cheap shots
While this title might suggest a lengthy post about the evils of drinking well liquor, it is instead an acknowledgment how easily riffs on the venerable Meyers-Briggs Type Indicators amuse […]
Micro, micro dopamine flow. Bite my ass.
I am being forced to write this blog post by a friend who has suffered through an 8 week series of self-help workshops with me. I hope she is grateful. […]
Civilization Crumbles
The New York Times Social Q’s column sometime in the last couple of months included the line – and I paraphrase – “every time we fail to acknowledge someone we […]
No, I Don’t Have a PhD
It happened again yesterday. An acquaintance introduced me to her other friend, and when we got through names, titles and work places, I remarked that we did similar kinds of […]
Steel Cables
Been thinking a lot about obligations lately. What you owe to colleagues, family, friends, society – why and how the calculations are made. Fortunately, when I get caught in a […]
Mixed Marriage
My husband and I have a mixed marriage when it comes to our attitudes about our books. I tend to only want to buy new books when I have already […]
