Today is my 20th wedding anniversary.
Mr. Man and I are apart this year because he’s attending a leadership program at Harvard Business School (yay!) and I’m preparing our house & life for our move to Montgomery, Alabama in one week (yikes!).
It’s actually better this way because I haven’t yet settled on an appropriate gift. For whatever reason I am bad at remembering dates and coming up with good gifts. It’s a flaw. Or maybe each relationship only has room for one person to be good at that stuff.
Anyway as I was trolling for gifts I came across some really idealized representations of love & marriage that got me to thinking.
Back in the 70’s there was a super popular comic strip call “Love is…” that featured naked, cherub-like adults and cute quotes like “Love is… giving him a lick of your ice cream.” There was no escaping the cuteness. They were in the newspaper, in books, on coffee mugs, t-shirts, posters, greeting cards, sheets and towels. A modern version of the strip still runs with updated quotes like “Love is… not letting technology interrupt your leisure time.”
I have some quotes drawn from the last 14 months of my life that I’d like to see in a new “It’s gettin real up in here” series.
- ….taking the phone call even though you know it’s bad news.
- ….living apart for 6 months so one of you can take their dream job.
- … holding your friends hand in the ICU.
- … putting your pet down when they can no longer enjoy their life.
- … helping your child take a leap into adulthood.
- … knowing a couple of bad days doesn’t make a bad life.
- … when you keep on keepin’ on.
The 70’s also gave us the book & movie “Love Story” which sold everyone the nonsense that “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”.
Love means, among other things, saying you’re sorry, and trying harder, and knowing when to let it slide and when to call BS. And mostly, love means not giving up on love because love really is the raison d’etre.