Given their druthers race is not usually the go to conversation topic for most people. It’s not hard to understand really, when you think about the ever present fear of saying or doing something that will get you called a racist.
I can say from experience someone calling you a racist (or homophobic) feels awful. I’ve been called both.
You can’t really defend yourself when someone calls you racist because its their perception of who you are. Based on whatever facts they are using (assuming words or actions), our intentions, motivations and back story are no longer relevant.
What ever you say ends up sounding like a “but I have black friends” excuse.
When I have the opportunity to lead workshops about race I usually pull out the Jay Smooth video. This does a couple of things: gets some very important ideas in the open quickly, lets everyone look at a screen rather than each other while they hear those ideas, and puts an African-American voice in the room.
The fact that I am a white woman can work for or against me when talking about race. Again perception.
The other day someone introduced me to a new tool for my tool box.
Amandla Stenberg, a 16-year old actress, made a video about cultural appropriation for her history class: “Don’t Cash Crop on My Cornrows – a crash discourse on black culture.” I give it an “A” for its ability to raise issues in a meaningful way that leads to further discussion.
Don’t know why this feels like progress in the face of continual reporting of black men and women being shot to death by police, but it does.
Given my druthers I’d wade into a tough conversation every day if could. Anyone need a workshop?